Divorce have to be a Taboo: We can’t afford broken families bringing up individuals, to be broke in future.

(Carefully ignoring to add an image here, because the image added would downgrade the impactfulness of the content.)

{Wanted to share Athar Amir and Tina’s issue, which is burning in the coutnry today and wanted to communicate on familial and social value that we are behaving ourselves into, but refrained from putting up the picture — ಅವ್ರ ಜೀವನ ಅವರಿಗೆ. ಆದ್ರೆ ಅದು ಸಮಾಜದ ದಾರಿ ಅಲ್ಲ.}

Before transacting in a relationship — open your eyes completely and once the relationship is made, close your eyes down to 50%.

There is no place for emotions — it can be a booster to achieve something or soother in bringing people in the relationship together or in fact in breaking them. Emotions is a two edged sword. It can make or even break you apart.

Divorce in my society today is big — it is breaking people in their 20s, 30s and 40s. If someone doesn’t want to enter the bandwagon of family in the society, they are free to choose that path. But in the society, that has be a small minority of beings. Societies are built on families and we are never taking the fact of family- making - the -society for granted. Are we going to EVEN debate the fundamentals of building a society? Unfortunately, we have come to this stage.

I just wonder, if we pass the time in debating the fundamentals, when the human beings are going to work towards realising their true potential. Humans can achieve great things, while working upon themselves in a family setup in the society.

Divorces are happening, because of too-much-freedom of individuals, monetary freedom, free speech freedom, behavioural freedom, freedom of choice and other freedoms’ that you can think of. Individuals are talking about fundamentals right, but do not realise the fundamental duty that they are obliged to serve.

Next, leaving the individuals and talking about being useful to others. When you do well to others that is when you’re called good, right! — This ‘my life my rules’ approach is a little exaggerated.

We are 7 billion+ people in this world. It is not necessary for everyone to have kids. In the past 30 years, we have come across wide varying type of relationships. Good. Again, I say, not everyone has to breed. At least not have sub-standard kids. I live close to Indian Institute of Horticulture Research, in India and close by there is Institute for Fisheries and Animal Husbandry research. There is so much intellectual effort that goes into breeding of animals, so that they have amazing off-springs. Once these small baby animals are out, the attention and the conducive atmosphere is created, so that baby animal grows and realises it true physical power and potential.

For many, it’s much more than just building physical prowess. It is intellectual, spiritual, discriminating intelligence for survival and a heart of empathy and inclusiveness to mingle with everyone and the power of an individual, to touch upon boundaries, which human species have not touched before.

For all this, we need conducive environments for human animals to operate and grow. If so much attention is giving to animal breeding and the atmosphere of growth to the baby animals, a human is even bigger possibility in life and in society.

The conducive environment is a good family. Divorces of today, are destroying this atmosphere. Do whatever the hell you want with your individual life — if one is so much concerned about freedom and individuality, one can move away from the human consecrated space and live a free life.

We are all in a constant transactional relationship with society. You’re never alone to lead a free life. Societal life is ready to smack you with responsibilities and take away your freedom. And for you to gain your right, duties have to be performed sincerely.

Families make society. Societies make the atmosphere for great human development. Divorces are huge impediment in the path for new humans to make a mark and strive for pushing the physical limits. In the philosophy of life as it entails — it is the society which is bigger than the family, it is the family which is bigger than the individual.

Alas, individuals can think of themselves being useful to others and enjoying their time with society.

Newspaper guy.